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“The desire for self-expression afflicts people when they feel there is something of themselves which is not getting through to the outside world.”

— Fay Weldon


Everybody has something to say. It could be a comment on things, a story to tell, knowledge to impart, experience to share. The list is endless! The point is no one is void of expression. Even the dumb has something to say. As long as one is human and can think, there is always something to communicate. In fact, if animals were given the ability to, they’d probably have an opinion themselves (The point is that we all have something to express!)

Not everyone expresses what they want to say however. It’s not like they have a disability or anything. It could be that they are insecure about what they want to say and so they’d rather not talk (But how long can you keep it in?) Also, some people just don’t like talking and prefer to keep things in. Personality can play a big role here.

Personality Types

In psychology, we learn that there are different personality types but there are two basic ones: Extroverts and Introverts. Generally, extroverts are known for being outspoken and well, they like to talk; introverts however are reserved and talk less. They are believed to have a loud mind but are of few words. They prefer to observe even though they might have a number of things to say.

Meet Me

In my case, I often find it difficult to express what I really have to say. I’m an introvert and I prefer to just write what I feel and my opinion of things. I find this fulfilling, like a burden has been taken off me. Sometimes too I don’t make expressions because I’m not sure if they make much sense. It may be one of the reasons I can be very skeptical of showing others what I write.

Beneath all of these however is a desire to share my perception with others and for people to understand them. It wouldn’t hurt for people to know my views. I might be going around with a wrong view and people can correct me, or people can actually learn from my views. Also, there’s satisfaction just letting others in on what you feel.

This blog is my way of coming out and expressing myself.

Take the Bold Step!

So, if you’re like me and you find it difficult to express yourself, I challenge you to take the bold step and just express yourself however way you feel comfortable. If you’ve tried and still find it difficult, you may need to learn how to do it. Writing, for me, is in a way learning how to express myself. The world needs your expression because you’re unique and so is your expression.

This does not mean you should be all crazy in a bid for self expression (if you know what I mean). I believe in moderation. I also believe that reading the right materials, listening to the right things help in our overall expression. The things we see, read, hear all form our thoughts which in turn inform our expression. You may want to take note of these things.

Still, the idea of this post is to come out and express.


Passion and Skill – lessons from a barber’s shop

Hello. It has been a while since I’ve been here. This evening, I went through one of the early posts I made as a blogger and found the article worthy of note. That’s why I decided to Reblog the post. Hope you find it helpful. Much love.

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In my short stay on earth I’ve discovered that lessons – little or big; few or many – can come from anywhere, anything or anybody. It’s therefore important not to trivialize any place or any thing. This discovery was reinforced recently.

One evening last week, I followed my friend to a barbing saloon to get his haircut. As the barber went about his work, I could not help but be amused by his pleasure and dexterity while shaving my friend’s hair. He was so detailed and accurate. I just sat there staring and admiring his skill. It was like he should go on and on. By the time he was through with his work, my friend was looking all fresh and fine.

My short stay at that barber’s shop taught me two lessons. One is the importance of being skilled in one’s work. The other is being passionate about one’s…

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“The Lord inhabits the praises of His people…” Psalm 22:3 (A simple statement yet carries much truth and power).

Church service today was wonderful! Our pastor talked extensively on praise, and we even had a session of praise which was very refreshing. It was in the middle of all that was done that I remembered an article I wrote a while back on an experience I had with praise. With a few additions to the article, I have decided to share it today. Hope it blesses you.

It was a Sunday morning and I needed to go for church service. ‘Do not forsake the assembly of the saints, the bible says (because there is strength, encouragement, edification and many good things from above when the saints gather). At this time in my life though, I was going through a number of things.

I cannot really say if I was gloomy or excited about going for the service (truth be told, I was not really eager to go) but I knew that I had to go. Whenever there is an opportunity to fellowship with the brethren, I’m usually drawn there (Actually, it is very necessary to fellowship with like-minded believers. There is always edification in such gatherings). So, I went for church service.

In the service, I was very distracted, especially by my worries and struggles. I sat down and started thinking of why it was even important for me to come to church service, how my life was and the different things I was going through. I could barely even concentrate on what the pastor was saying. It was like there was a contention for my joy.

Praise session.

The time to lift up holy hands and sing unto the Lord came and as much as I was distracted and sad, I decided to praise God. Who else would I lift up holy hands to but my Father? So I sang to Him, reflected on His love, His wisdom, His power and I was transfigured. I could feel His love, see His wisdom and my heart was filled with gratitude and I kept saying the words, “thank you, Lord”. There and then, I experienced (at least in part) what it meant for the Lord to inhabit the praises of the people. It was like God came to dwell in our midst.

I felt strengthened, reinvigorated and joyful. It was not just me who felt this way though. I could virtually see it all over the congregation. Needless to say, the rest of the service was amazing and I was more enlightened on my faith. It was like the heavens opened after the praise session.

It’s funny but looking back, I can’t even remember the things that I was going through that seemed so insurmountable and wanted to steal my joy. The joy and strength that come with the presence of the LORD surely helped to reduce those things to a state of nothingness.

Really, there is power in praises! The Lord does inhabit (dwell in) the praise of His people.

To my readers, if you ever feel weighed down or empty, praise God deliberately. Meditate on His kindness and love. Sooner or later, you’ll feel His presence because the Lord is a praise inhabiter; He inhabits the praises of His people. Also, as you praise Him, directions on what to do and help to rise above every situation will surely come. The bible has various examples of people who received help while praising God: King Jehoshaphat, King David, Paul and Silas, to name a few.

Praise the LORD always, in every situation (1 Thessalonians 5:16).

Much love!


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I knelt down to pray one morning and it was as though I couldn’t ‘connect’ with God. I felt alone. This was also a time in my life when I had to deal with a number of things. These things were making me feel overwhelmed.

Usually, when I feel overwhelmed ’cause of the things going on in my life, I find solace and comfort in God’s love, just knowing that He is with me, He loves me and is working things out for my good. Also, in such situations, prayer is always a great time of fellowship where I can draw strength from God’s Spirit. But this particular day, I felt alone.

I was almost giving up on the fellowship time when the words in Hebrews 13:5 came into my heart, “I will never leave you nor forsake you”.

It was as though a great burst of light penetrated an extremely dark room. It was like a firing up of my entire being. I was energized and I was able to commune with the Father from the consciousness that He is always with me; He will never leave me nor forsake me.

Once again, I learnt that day that feelings should not always be relied on in life. First of all, they are so fleeting, and if you’re an introvert, like me, you’ll tend to have loads of different types of feelings each passing day! What should always be relied on is truth and God’s word is truth.

What happened to me that morning served to remind me that my responses and actions should be based on what God’s word says.

I was ready to act based on my feelings: I ‘felt’ alone and so there was no need to commune with the Father. But the Spirit of God reminded me of what is in scripture concerning all believers, who follow God in Spirit and in truth: “I will never leave nor forsake you.”

There are actually times when we ‘feel’ like God isn’t with us. This kind of feeling is common when we may be going through a test or a trying time.

A particular minister of the gospel gave an illustration to explain God’s presence during a test.

He said that it is the responsibility of teachers to tutor their students on a course. However, when the time comes to write an exam, the teacher can be present in the examination hall but will not utter a word to the students.

This nevertheless does not imply that the teacher is not there or that the teacher does not love them. It does imply though that the teacher believes he or she has taught them all through the session and thus, they should be well equipped to answer the questions. If they pass the examination, then they’ll get promoted to the next level. If not, they’d have to keep writing the exams until they pass.

The point of the illustration is that God is with His children during tests even when we think that He is silent. He is right where we are. He only wants us to apply the principles that He has earlier taught us in overcoming tests, so that we can develop character and move to the next level in our knowledge of Him. (Note: the Holy Spirit will always bring the word of God for each season we are in. We should be sensitive to His voice).

In other words, do not let what you’re going through make you believe that God has left or forsaken you. He loves His children with an everlasting love. Use the word of God as a compass every step of the way. There is strength in God’s word!

Note though that sin can make a man distant from God. If there is a sin you need to confess, do it with a repentant heart and with all humility. God is always willing to forgive if we confess our sins. (I thought it well to include this).

The point of this post to believers though is that God is always with us. He has promised to not leave or forsake us. Don’t be moved by your feelings, let your movement be by the word of God. Selah.


“For we know that in all things, God works together for the good of they that love God and are the called according to His purpose.”

  • Romans 8:28

I have many parts of the Scripture as my favorite and Romans 8:28 is definitely one of them. Actually, the whole scripture just has a way of speaking to you one way or the other. If it’s not instructing, it is giving directions, or it is giving comfort, or providing strength, or edifying, or uplifting, or correcting, or showing life lessons. The scripture is just wonderful, it is full of truth. It is complete.

I just thought I should write that before going further in this post.

Since as far back as I can remember, I have been fearful and worrisome. I recall that I could never sleep in a room on my own some years ago, and it took a while for me to have my bath in the bathroom without my Mom or sister being there with me.

I remember worrying about exams, and worrying about entering into different life phases etc. Worrying was worse when I made mistakes. I would just dislike myself and worry that I could not be ‘anyone so significant’. These thoughts still try to creep in at times but thank God for His word and His Spirit.

I once read in a book on Temperaments that such behavior comes from the Temperament of an individual. I don’t know whether or not to fully agree. I know, though, that some kinds of people are prone to some kinds of behavior while others are not.

I know too that experiences play a big factor in making people how they are. For instance, a fearful or worrisome individual may have had some experiences that would have induced fear or worry in him/her. This is not a way of disputing the Temperament theory. I know that there are different kinds of Temperaments and individuals in the world have one or a blend of temperaments. I do too.

I have nevertheless questioned why some people should behave in certain ways naturally. I believe that it’s for beauty in diversity to be achieved.

Each temperament has a mixture of strengths and weaknesses, so that no one would see one’s self as self-sufficient. Strengths are great, but weaknesses can be burdensome and everyone has them. In my own case, I know that I can be prone to worry and fear.

However, if there is one lesson that I’m coming to learn more and more each day is that I don’t need to worry because in all things, God works together for the good of they that love Him and they that are the called according to His purpose. So, instead of remaining worrisome over a past mistake and not wanting to make another one, or being worrisome about the next phase of my life or what the future may hold, it helps to just trust God and do my best in my endeavors as I go through life.

This year so far has just shown me in different ways that God truly makes all things work together for the good of they that love Him and are the called according to His purpose.

Let us stay on this verse – Romans 8:28 – a little. Have you ever stopped to question why all things work together for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose? I believe that there is a reason.

Those who truly love God do His will. They are the ones who follow the commands and directions of the Father. They are the ones that want to please Him always. The will of God is seen in His words, in His instructions (general and specific), in His commandments, in the inner promptings the Spirit impresses in us, in God’s voice. Jesus, more than once, said ‘If you love me, you will keep my commandments’. Those that love God do His will – they keep His commandments above all else, and they are the ones on the pathway of blessings.

Remember Psalm 1? Blessed is the man whose delight is in the laws of the LORD. When you delight in something, you obviously would want to follow it. Remember Joshua 1:8, ‘God’s law should not depart from you and as you think on them and do them, then your ways will be prosperous and you will have good success’.

Loving God is a sure way of things working out for one’s good. There are blessings that come with doing God’s will. In fact, God’s will in its entirety is for the benefit of humanity and we will do well to follow His will.

There is so much beauty just submitting to the Lord and following His lead. That’s where the blessings lie, that’s where goodness lies. Instead of being constantly worried or fearful, or for some it may even be pride, it pays better to just love God and fulfil His purposes and watch how things work out for your good. It’s a lesson I’m learning.

Today, I just want to encourage anyone who reads this piece to just love God, and be committed to His will and purpose, then watch out how things work out for your good in more ways than you can even imagine.

P.S: I wrote this piece some weeks ago for my birthday, but I had mixed feelings about publishing it. After reading through again I decided to share today. Hope it encourages you.


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Before I go into details on what I want to share, I want to acknowledge that I know I haven’t made a post in a while. While I can think of many reasons to give, especially the fact that an event happened in my life that changed my normal routine, the truth still remains that I didn’t make any post.

I acknowledge this and will do what I can to make posts from time to time. Thank you for bearing with me. This being said, there’s something I’d like to share with you. I hope you read to the end.

Yesterday was a day of lessons for me. I wouldn’t say any particular one was of more significance than the others. All of them were and still are important and they each have their significance in my life. My birthday anniversary was about two weeks ago and every single day seems to remind me that I’m no longer a child (of course I’m not) and at this stage in my life, I need to be careful about the decisions I make. This is one reason why lessons are of value to me. Daily too, I’m learning more and more that decisions made in light of God’s word are the ones that stand the test of time and ultimately guarantee a fruitful life.

Though I learned different lessons yesterday, there is a specific one I want to share with anyone who reads this post and I sincerely hope it speaks to you like it did to me. It most likely may not be novel to you, but if there’s something I’ve learned about humans (at least from myself), it is that we need constant re-enforcement of the things we know to be good and true. This way these things will become a part of us.

So, back to the lesson from yesterday. Church service was about to end and our pastor came on the pulpit and held the mic. I was taken aback a bit because yesterday was youth Sunday and I wondered why the pastor should be the one to give the announcement. But then he held the mic and started to sing a Happy Birthday song for a faithful worker of the children church. The woman clocked 60 on Saturday and they decided to throw a surprise for her in Church.

People came from different places, from their different denominations: children, teenagers, adults and many more to celebrate her and give thanks to God on her behalf. I considered it a great honour!

I’ve not known this woman for long because I joined the Church denomination that I attend not too long ago. However, from all that I heard about her yesterday and what I saw, I was truly moved. Everyone wanted to celebrate with her and they had nice things to stay about her.

From what I heard, she has been a worker in the Children Church and even other departments in Church for many years and has faithfully helped groom the lives of many children. I also heard that she takes care of homeless/destitute children. I was inspired! She is a woman that looks so simple yet of great impact.

She didn’t even know that they were going to surprise her that way and she actually got teary amidst the celebrations. Many came to rejoice with her and to give thanks to God for the life of a woman who offered herself for the service of God and the betterment of others. It was a beautiful sight!

One scripture that was impressed in my heart after witnessing all that happened was 2 Corinthians 9:6-15. It’s a scripture that I read last week and it was brought to my mind yesterday. It talks about sowing and reaping. If you sow sparingly, that’s how you’ll reap. If you sow bountifully, that’s how you’ll reap. It then goes on to say that God is able to give us much grace to be blessings to others – to offer our generosity. By doing this, a lot of people will give thanks to God on our behalf (Note that sowing and generosity are not restricted to our resources but mean much more – our time, our talents, our strength and everything that encompasses showing love and kindness).

Similarly, in Matthew 5:15-16, Jesus said something about letting our light shine before mean so that they will see our ‘good’ works and glorify God.

Being a blessing to others and doing good works do not always come easy. We need to be willing to let go of our ‘conveniences’ and live sacrificial lives, helping those around us and basically sharing the love of Christ even when it hurts.

I find consolation in the fact that the bible says “God is able to make all grace abound towards us, so that having sufficiency in all things, we may abound to every good work”. God’s grace is available to help us, if we are ready to receive it. Really, it pays to be a blessing to others, and by being a blessing, it makes people give glory to God by reason of our actions. Isn’t this wonderful?

I encourage every reader of this post to be a blessing to others with whatever God has placed in you to use to lift others up. It could even be being a blogger and enlightening others. Do not be weary in being a blessing, great is your reward.

This is one of the lessons I learned and thought to share. Hope a message was passed to you. I love you! Have a wonderful week!


I sat down in a red bus on my way back home from a place I had visited for the first time. It was my second time using the red bus. My first time in that type of bus was in the morning, on my way to the place I visited. That ride was good, to an extent, and the fare was inexpensive; so, I decided to use the same type of bus when returning home. Wrong decision!

The bus was crowded! There was hardly any breathing space (This is a bit of an exaggeration, but the point is too many people were in that bus). Initially, the passengers were only few and I boarded the bus with the hope of the ride being like the one I took in the morning, but this was not so. More and more passengers were allowed in until the bus became packed.

Let me try to give a description of how the red bus is. It’s a long bus. There are two/three seats at either side of the bus and there is a wide space between the sides, where passengers can walk to their seats.

The bus conductor (as called in Nigeria: someone who takes in passengers and collects their fares from them) together with the driver decided that they were going to maximize profit (as is their usual practice).

The passengers had to seat closely to each other. As bad as that was, I didn’t know worse was coming. After all the seats were filled up, the bus conductor started to take passengers who would stand all through the journey.

Maybe I wouldn’t have had much problem with a few of those kind of passengers, but this man didn’t take a few. He took as many passengers as he could until the whole bus – seats and wide space between the seats – was full of people. Even with that, he wanted to take more. Haba!

While under normal circumstances this may not bother me much, it made me irritated that day. We are currently facing a pandemic that requires as much social distancing as possible to protect us from a ravaging virus that is claiming lives. Why would you endanger people including yourself to maximize profits?

The people that were standing also had to pay fares; although, they may not have had to pay as much as those who sat. Despite the cheap fares, I still believe it was wrong for allowance to be given for many passengers to stand so closely to one another, especially in this season where COVID19 is an issue.

Well, as I sat down angry at the fact that I was in a bus full of people and had to be careful, another thought crossed my mind.

I tried to put myself in the other passengers’ (those who were standing) shoes. What if they couldn’t afford a seating fare and that’s why they chose to board a bus whose fare they could pay, even though they would be uncomfortable all through the ride?

As sad as it may sound, some people live under extremely poor circumstances and cannot afford even basic things like a good seat in a bus.

What if the conductor and driver of that bus allowing people to stand in the bus was actually for the benefit of some people?

It actually makes sense to justify the driver and conductor’s actions, but really what they did was still wrong. If not for anything, the fact that there is a deadly contagious virus should have prevented them from such act.

Personally, I believe that they were more after the profit that they would make than in helping the less privileged. Safety and health should always come first. Imagine if anyone in the bus contracted the virus. How much money would be used for treatment? Far more than the amount they used for their fare, of course.

One sad reality that I’ve noticed though is that people (service providers) are usually profit driven, and consumers want to try to manage their money/cut cost, sometimes to the detriment of their safety.

What makes a service provider use substandard products, products that are of less quality and relatively cheap to provide services? The desire to maximize profit.

What would make a consumer go for a product that is of low quality and relatively cheap even though it may be hazardous to them? Managing money/the desire to cut cost.

An example of this is someone constantly including potassium bromate (a carcinogenic substance) in the baking of some bread because of the output, neglecting the harmful effects the ingredients can pose. Irrespective of this awareness, consumers still purchase this bread because it is cheap and big even though one of its ingredients is dangerous to their health. This is not right!

As humans, we must learn to look beyond instant gratification (immediate satisfaction/short term effect), and consider the long term effects of our actions. Sadly, the reality is that more people are concerned with instant gratification.

To be quite honest, sometimes I’m not left out of this way of thinking (thinking of the immediate pleasure and not considering long term effects of my actions). Nevertheless, I have to keep cautioning myself to do the right thing and weigh my actions.

If we all collectively would decide to take into consideration long term effects of our actions, doing the right thing, even though it may not be convenient, I believe the world will be a better place.

As for me, I’ll do my best, and try to make people see the need to do what they should in order to bring an end to this sad reality hinged on selfishness and instant gratification that we are faced with.

Thank you for reading through. I hope it inspired you.

Stay blessed and stay safe!

CONFORMITY OR TRUTH & COURAGE: Lessons from a childhood story

The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity.

  • Rollo May

In recent times, I’ve come to realize that many of the story books I read as a child, animations I watched, and songs I listened to while growing up have essential life lessons that I didn’t perceive at that time.

Then, as a child, I read, watched and listened to these things because I enjoyed them, but subconsciously some values were being passed through them.

(Note: it’s important how children are brought up. The things they see, hear and get exposed to serve as a foundation for the building of their life. In this time and age it is very important to have this in mind. Don’t think that they don’t understand much. Yeah, they may not understand much, but what they see and hear stay with them subconsciously or consciously.)

So back to what I was writing before the note. Some days ago, I remembered a story I had read as a child. It’s titled “The Emperor’s New Clothes”. I see the lesson from the story fit for sharing here.

In this story, there was an emperor who was a lover of clothes. He even placed more value on clothes and dressing than in his duties as an emperor.

One day two men decided to approach him and they went in the guise of being cloth weavers. They told him about how they were competent designers and could sew beautiful clothes. They spoke so eloquently and the emperor was impressed. He decided to give them a contract.

These “weavers” asked for the best and expensive materials to aid their work and the emperor gladly gave it to them. Before they started however, they told the emperor that the clothes they were making would only be visible to those who were fit, upright and suitable for their work.

Simpletons, foolish/unwise people wouldn’t be able to see the clothes. This made the emperor even more pleased. According to him, he would discover those who were unwise and unfit in his community.

The whole community soon got to know about the special robes being made for the emperor. There was a planned procession where the emperor would march round the community in his new “clothes”. Everyone looked forward to seeing the clothes and to discovering which of their neighbours was foolish or unwise due to the inability to see the clothes.

As the weavers went about their work, the emperor decided to send his wisest adviser to inspect the clothes and return with feedback. The emperor didn’t want to see the clothes until they were completed.

When the adviser got to where the weavers were, he discovered to his utmost surprise that he couldn’t see anything. “Am I unwise?” He asked himself. Meanwhile, the weavers were making comments on the clothes’ beauty and colours, but they were lying because in reality they were not weaving anything.

The adviser didn’t want to look foolish so he too ‘played’ along. “Oh yes! The robes are very beautiful”, he said and went back with good reports about the robes to the emperor.

Other advisers and people from the emperor were sent. None could see anything, but none told the other about the inability to see the clothes. They all pretended that the robes were beautiful because they did not want to seem foolish.

Soon the new “clothes” were “completed”. It was time for the emperor to see his clothes, wear them and march round the community with everyone being present to see him.

The weavers came with the “clothes” (even though they were actually holding nothing). The advisers of the emperor were with him and they were all giving good comments about the beautiful robe. However, the emperor could see nothing.

“What!” He thought to himself. “Every other person can see the robes but I can see nothing. Am I the unwise one in my community? I am the emperor and must not be perceived as such”.

Because the emperor thought every other person could see the clothes and didn’t want to be the “unwise” one, he also said that the robes were beautiful and allowed his servants put them on him, even though nothing was actually being put on him.

The weavers requested that large sums of money be paid them for all their hardwork and labour. The emperor did this and the weavers quickly escaped secretly.

It was time for the emperor to make his procession (procession in his underwear!). Nobody said that the emperor was in his underwear only, they all said he had beautiful robes on. Even the emperor agreed that his robes were beautiful.

Everyone was gathered round to watch the procession and behold the well crafted clothes. As the emperor marched, the community members all soon discovered that they could see no robes except the emperor’s underwear. But none told the other because no one wanted to be the unwise one.

As the procession went one, it was a little boy from the crowd that shouted “the emperor has no clothes on”. An adult tried to make the child silent but then everyone soon agreed that the emperor had no clothes on.

The emperor was ashamed! He had been deceived. He had to shamefully complete the procession in his underwear.

The end!

What’s the lesson of the story?

I asked a friend this question and paraphrasing what he said and adding mine, “many times we are too concerned with how we look in the eyes of men. We don’t want to look unwise, so we agree with things that are not true and right, so that we can fit in“.

Many people have been lured to doing bad things so that they wouldn’t look foolish or so that they can follow the ‘crowd’. This is a wrong way of living.

Then, in line with that lesson, another lesson is don’t be afraid to speak the truth, even if you may stand alone. No one wanted to say what was true in the community because they feared that they would be the only one saying it.

What do you know to be true and right? Don’t be afraid to say it or do it.(This is a lesson for me too).

I also need to include that I know God’s word and the principles in His word to be true. In fact, it’s the basis for my truth.

There are other lessons in this story too. Which can you point out?

Thank you for reading through.

Stay blessed and stay safe.


“Sometimes or even many times, it can be difficult thinking about the most suitable way to start a blog post, or the right words to express in the post.

Today is one of those days; however, I’m not going to allow myself get discouraged. I have some thoughts to express and this challenge shouldn’t deter me.

I want to address a question that plagues me from time to time and what I’ve resolved to do about it. I hope it helps at least one person who reads this post.”

The question “what if?” is one that comes to my mind often. I question past decisions that I made. I also question things that happened which were beyond my control, like the loss of a family member, where I was born, the actions of others etc.

Many times I spend time imagining what would have been had my decisions been different and if those things did not occur.

Do my daydreams change anything? Not really.

After fantasizing, I’ll go back to reality where I made the decisions I made and where the things that happened actually occurred. And whether or not I like it, I have to live in reality and not a fantastical world.

I’ve realized that it makes no sense living in a ‘world’ of what could have been or living in regret. Things happen in life which if we had the choice to pick, we definitely wouldn’t have chosen those things.

Also, mistakes occur, we make wrong and unwise decisions which bring about unpleasant results. Some of these decisions may have been from a place of ignorance or immaturity. But here is something pleasant to learn from mistakes: lessons. We gain experience and we learn lessons.

So, instead of beating one’s self from what could have been, living in denial of what happened, or creating a world of fantasy (except for a fictional story), we should learn from the things that happened and make the best of the situation or circumstance that we find ourselves in.

I read a blog post some time ago about ‘doing the next right thing’, and I believe it applies here too. In that post though, the blogger wrote in reference to climbing the mountains in front of us and reaching the peak.

When we’re on the ground, it may seem like an enormous task to climb a high mountain, but if we keep doing the next right thing – taking a step forward and higher, we’ll reach the peak finally.

In this post, however, I am using the phrase ‘do the next right thing’ in relation to bad decisions made or unpleasant circumstances beyond your control that happened.

Instead of a constant questioning of what could have been, do the next right thing. Make better decisions and make the best of the situation.

There’s an encouraging word for believers in relation to this. It’s a bible verse I love so much. “For we know that IN ALL THINGS, God works for the good of they that love Him and are the called according to His purpose”. (Romans 8:28).

So, yes, if you’re a believer, God is able to make all things work together for your good (even past bad decisions) as long as you stay yielded to Him.

For those yet to become believers in Christ, here Is an invitation to you to a loving, wonderful and victorious life, which comes by faith in the finished work of Christ, acknowledgement and repentance of sins, and receiving of Christ as your Lord and Saviour.

So, my dear friends and readers, don’t let the ‘what if’ question keep you unhappy or at a standstill. Learn from the things that happened and resolve to do what is right and make the most of the situation.

It’s a habit I’m learning to cultivate and God has been faithful. I just thought I should share it here today.

Have a blessed weekend. Stay safe too!

SERVANTHOOD: the pathway to greatness.

“If any of you would be the greatest, he must be servant of all”

  • Jesus (Mark 10:44)

There’s this interesting book titled ‘Vacancy: you are urgently needed‘. It is a book that was written to make people aware that they are useful, and to guide people on how to excel/stand out for excellence in their work. One overruling idea in this book, for excellence and demand, amidst everything written is service.

People constantly request the attention, services and are willing to pay handsomely whoever can deliver exceptional services/value to them. And the more service you provide to people, the more reward you get.

Quite frankly, an impactful life is measured by how much we have been able to serve people. By service here, I mean going all the way out to meet the needs of others and even surpass their needs.

Notice that everything that makes life more convenient today is a form of service. People invent things or do things daily to meet the needs of people. The level to which these acts of services are being able to meet the needs of the populace makes some people tagged ‘people of impact’.

Pay attention to men and women who through history are referred to as impactful people, you’ll notice that they served for the betterment of mankind.

It’s amazing how principles for success in this world are rooted in the word of God, and in Jesus Christ Himself (who is the word).

While on earth Jesus Christ made some insightful statements about servanthood, or you can choose to say ‘service’. Looking at His life too, we can truly point Him out to be One with a servant’s heart: He came to serve. (And really, Jesus is the greatest and most impactful person who ever lived on earth! Even up until this moment, He is still impacting lives).

One profound statement that Jesus Christ made concerning service is “I didn’t come to be served but to serve…” (Mark 10:45). And indeed Jesus served unto the point of His death. Even His death was service to humanity, so that we all by His precious blood shed for us may be united to the Father and be joint-heirs with Him.

Before the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus even, notice how He went about serving. He was preaching the good news of the kingdom of God, teaching men and women the kingdom lifestyle, healing the sick, performing miracles and doing everything good. Large crowds followed Him because He was serving. He was giving them great value – a kind of value they had never seen before.

Even when He opened His mouth to speak, people were in awe, because He spoke as someone with authority. Jesus Christ had great power and authority and value, but He never used it to glorify Himself. Instead He used it all to serve humanity, and He taught His disciples the same. He said, “If any of you would be the greatest, he must be servant to all”. In other words, servanthood is the pathway to greatness.

For every Christian, Jesus Christ is our perfect example. He is the author and finisher of our faith (Hebrews 12:2), and we are to look unto Him for guidance. If the author and finisher of our faith showed and taught us to live a life of service, and take on a servant’s heart, how much more we His followers?

Even Apostle Paul by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit enjoined the Church to have the mind of Christ which was a mind of humility and servanthoood (Philippians 2:5-7).

Wherever we find ourselves, we need to have the mind of someone who wants to render services to make the people around us better. And this must be done with all humility and love.

Don’t think you don’t have anything. You have a lot. Your smile, your word of encouragement, your contribution, your skill, your abilities, your Spiritual gifts, your material resources etc. can all be used for service.

Don’t let what you have go to waste! Use it to serve others. The world needs what you can offer. If you have to develop what you have, do so. But by all means, SERVE!

In discussing service, I’d also like to point out something vital from the life of Christ – OBEDIENCE.

Yes, Jesus Christ lived a life of service to humanity; nevertheless, all His actions were from the standpoint of Obedience: Obedience not to just anybody, but obedience to God. He was obedient unto death for the redemption of humanity (Philippians 2:8).

For everyone reading this, even though we are to serve others and maintain a heart of servanthood and humility, we need to be first of all obedient to God, to His words and instructions, and to the voice of authority that the LORD has placed over us.

In reality, this obedience will still point us to serve humanity, but by doing this, we will be serving humanity in a way that pleases God and serving out of true love. This is a beautiful way to live.

The chaos that is experienced in the world many times is not because people are not serving, but because some people are not serving out of obedience to God and are not serving in a way that pleases God.

Some serve for their personal interest, some serve to please others at the expense of pleasing God, some serve to look good. The ultimate service however should be to please God first and by so doing, we will be empowered to serve humanity in a way that pleases God and meets the true needs of others.

Remember the sum of the commandments: Love God with all of your being first. Then, love your neighbour as yourself (Matthew 22:36-40). Love serves (love looks unto the good of others).

Dearly beloved readers, I’m sharing a message that has been placed in my heart which is for the benefit of all.

Cultivate a heart of good and humble service where you find yourself, not because of the rewards you’ll get (and of course you’ll be rewarded especially by the LORD), but do it because such a life glorifies God and makes humanity better.

I assure you, a life of serving others is a life that is destined for greatness. Remember Jesus’ words, “He that will be the greatest must be a servant to all”.

Much love to all.

Stay blessed and stay safe.


“…I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now, choose life so that you and your children may live”.

  • Moses (Deuteronomy 30:19).

It’s my first blog post of the year and I’m excited! To my lovely readers, I wish you a hearty ‘Happy New Year!

So, we are a few days into the New Year and I find it very expedient to share this today.

We’re at the beginning stage of the year, and the way one begins anything matters a lot. I know it’s commonly said that the end of a thing is better than the beginning. This is true; nevertheless, the beginning is also vital because it helps to lay the foundation on which things are built.

I’ll use my experience in the university to buttress the significance of the beginning stage. As a fresher, during my undergrad days, one thing that stalites (our senior colleagues) constantly told us was that we should start well i.e build a good CGPA from our first year in school and this would help us in the long run.

They told us that to do this we had to understand basic concepts in the courses we were taught, especially the core ones. This would help growing in understanding those concepts much easier. I’m grateful I listened to my seniors because I can affirm that it helped me. A good foundation will always make for a stable building.

Why am I saying/typing this? It is the start of a new year and I believe that we should lay a good foundation by making an important choice: The choice to choose LIFE. In choosing LIFE lies the things we need for our all round success and prosperity, or you can choose to say ‘fruitfulness’.


What does it mean to choose life?

“If you want to enter life, obey the commandments (of the LORD)” (Matthew 19:17b).

The words above were said by Jesus when a rich young ruler asked him what He could do to have eternal life. We can thus say that choosing LIFE implies obedience to God’s commands. In fact, when Moses called the Israelites together, he told them to choose life i.e. to obey the instructions of God – to choose the way of the Father. On that path lies blessings, according to Moses.

The bible further buttresses fruitfulness by obeying God’s word in Joshua 1:8 and Psalm 1:3. The man who delights in God’s word, mediates on it and is careful to observe all that is written in it is bound to be fruitful, prosperous and have good success.

Of a truth, God’s word contains what is needed for a prosperous man: it addresses the spirit, soul and body. It is life to our Spirit, refreshment to our souls and it does not neglect how the body should be treated.

It addresses how we should think, act, live. It teaches righteousness, diligence, love for God and love for others, honour, humility etc. It helps us to know the will of God for us. The knowledge of the Father’s will sets our lives on the right course and energizes us.

God’s word is God’s instrument for aligning us to His righteous kingdom. By seeking to be aligned to God’s kingdom, all other things needed will be added to us (Matthew 6:33).

Certainly, a man that chooses LIFE (obedience to God’s word) in every situation – life, work, relationship etc will be successful.


There is something worthy of note from Jesus’ discourse with the rich young ruler. The young ruler replied Jesus saying that he had kept God’s commands since he was a youth (no wonder he was rich. Lol!). Jesus then said that for the rich young ruler to be perfect, he (the young ruler) should follow Him (Jesus).

In other words, true and perfect life comes from following Jesus. And really following Jesus is choosing to live by the word of God, as led by the Spirit of God. But firstly, you need to receive Him, and live for Him.

“I am the truth, the way and the life” (John 14:6a).
“I have come that you might have life and life abundantly”
(John 10:10).

  • Jesus.

Choosing life is choosing Jesus. It is choosing to receive Jesus, if you have not done so yet. It is choosing to walk with Jesus. It is choosing to let Jesus be your shepherd and guide you, while you hear His voice and obey as His sheep.

Choosing Life is seeking God’s kingdom and all its righteousness in whatsoever you do. It is choosing to weigh your actions and decisions, wherever you are, in light of God’s word and how Jesus leads you by His Spirit in you.

To do this effectively, there is a need to delight in God’s word, consistently feed on it, pray, fellowship with the LORD and with other believers, and be conscious about being sensitive to God’s Spirit. God deals with His children individually, and He has instructions He highlights to each one of His children through His word and by His Spirit.

Really, following Jesus is walking in the way of LIFE: the life that the soul of everyone cries for.

God’s word refreshes and instructs; obedience to God’s command gives peace and yields rewards; prayer gives strength and helps us to know specific things that God would have us do as individuals; the Holy Spirit leads, directs, comforts, gives joy. All these sum up our walk with Jesus, and it’s the path of life! I can’t imagine a better life.

I want us all to make a decision to choose life this year. I want us to choose to delight in God’s word, meditate on His word constantly and obey the word. The Holy Spirit is in every believer to strengthen us to do this.

I want us to choose loving God and loving our neighhours (This is the sum of all the law). Ultimately, I want us to choose to walk with Jesus – to follow Jesus, because He leads in the way of abundant life.

Doing this, I guarantee you, will launch you into a full rich life and help you know and enjoy God’s will which is good, perfect and acceptable.

NOTE: The world may not agree with this, even your flesh might not. From experience, I know it is not always easy, but the Holy Spirit guides and strengthens in our walk with Jesus. I’m looking up for more strength. You should too!

There is also need to have a personal resolve to remain strong. Note the blessed Apostle Paul’s words in Ephesians 6:10 – “Be strong in the LORD and in the power of HIS might. Put on the whole armour of God so that you can stand against the enemy’s schemes” (Ephesians 6:10-11).

If you choose to follow Jesus, know that you are in the world but not of the world; nevertheless, you’re a light chosen to shine God’s bright light in a dark world. So, choose life, shine the light of Christ and bring glory to God.

I love you all! Happy New Year, once again! And please, pardon the long post.

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